How to use a cloth napkin at the table

Using cloth napkins at the table is not just a matter of etiquette. It's a small gesture that transforms an everyday meal into something special. Knowing how to use them at the table might seem simple... until you host a dinner party and no one knows what to do with them.

Where to place the cloth napkin on the table

The first thing is to decide where to place it. The napkin can go:

• On the plate, gracefully folded.

• To the left of the cutlery, as classic etiquette dictates.

• Under the plate or bread plate, for an elegant and discreet touch.

The key is to harmonize with the table's style: if you've chosen patterned napkins, place them where they can be showcased. And if they are white, impeccably linen... please don't make it look like a hospital.

And when do you use it? Here's where it gets interesting...

When to use a cloth napkin (and how not to look like you're from a 1950s etiquette guide)

Just as important as where it goes, is when and how to use the cloth napkin.

• Before starting: place it gently on your lap, never around your neck (you're not in a barbershop).

• During the meal: use it to discreetly wipe your lips. No rubbing your face.

• When finished: leave it lightly folded to the right of the plate. No need to refold it perfectly.

Creative uses: flowers, notes, and hidden aromas

Napkins don't just clean. They can also speak. How?

• With a sprig of lavender or rosemary tied with jute string.

• With a small card with the guest's name.

• With a drop of essential oil in the corner (I use bergamot).

Have you seen our collection of printed cotton napkins? Each one is more beautiful than the last, it's hard to choose just one!

Which napkins to choose depending on the occasion

Like dresses, not all napkins are suitable for everything.

• For family meals: soft, washable, resistant cotton.

• For long dinners with red wine: large linen (at least 45x45 cm!).

• For picnics: patterned, cheerful napkins that won't suffer from grass.

Sometimes, a well-chosen napkin turns an ordinary dinner into a memorable one.

Frequently asked questions

Where do you place the napkin on a formal table?
On the plate or to the left. Never in the glass...

What size should a cloth napkin be?
Ideally, 50x50cm.

How do you wash linen napkins without damaging them?
Cold water, mild detergent, and low spin. Ironing is optional... unless your mother-in-law is coming to dinner.

Can cloth napkins be given as gifts?
Yes, and it's a lovely idea! Especially with dinnerware or a picnic basket.

Conclusion:

No detail is small when the table reflects affection. Cloth napkins are not a luxury. They are a gesture. One that says "you matter to me," without uttering a word.

And you, do you already have your favorites?

With love,
Marga